Over at Slate, Dear Prudence got a question from a reader involving her creepy and insecure boyfriend. Why creepy? Because the girl recently discovered that her boyfriend had hacked into her Email account and sifted through 5-years worth of messages. Even worse, the prick filtered searches to find emails with “date” and “sex” in the body and is now using the girl’s sexual history against her in arguments.
She says her formerly kind and sweet boyfriend has been replaced with this jealous and insecure grosso. The two are living together and she was asking Dear Prudence what to do. Um, it’s quite clear to me: get the heck out and ditch the dude. The guy violated one of the tenets of personal privacy.
There’s just a certain amount of digital privacy that should exist in all relationships. Don’t check my e-mails, don’t peep my texts, don’t hijack my Facebook! Once people start digging around your personal digital history, chat logs, DMs, etc. something will be come out and it won’t be pretty. Avoid all that by trusting your partner. It sounds cheesy but extend the same trust you have in them in real life to their computer too. If it’s important, they’ll eventually tell you everything you need to know. [Slate]