We asked our favourite love doctor, Debby Herbenick, what to do after we accidentally send a romantic or possibly kinky message to the wrong person. What about tweeting said message publicly, instead of sending direct?
If you misdirected a line about what you plan on doing with your tongue later that night to a good friend rather than your partner, I’m sure everyone can be grown-ups and laugh that one off. Hey, at least you have a sex life, right? But if you misdirected such a line to your boss? Well, let’s just say that pretending your personal IM or Facebook accounts got hacked (or maybe your phone was stolen) may not be such a bad idea. Post a few ridiculous things or send another message to your boss pretending it’s from the perpetrator, and then complain about how scary the internet is for the next few days at work. For a certain segment of the population, blaming “the internet” tends to work. Problem solved.
Now, if you tweet something out loud that was meant to be a Secret Message (I’m against using the term “direct message”, which I feel has no flavour whatsoever) you could delete it immediately but it may still show up in your followers’ Twitter feed leaving you feeling panicked and scared. Instead, try to cover your tracks with another Tweet that makes the first one seem funny or silly and something you totally meant to write but in an ironic sort of way.
Debby Herbenick, PhD is a Research Scientist and Associate Director of The Centrefor Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, a sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute and author of Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction. She blogs at MySexProfessor.com.
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